When we were newly engaged I spent hours fawning over photos and blogs of weddings. Gorgeous photos of outdoor California vineyard, rustic Texas barnyard and Canadian forest weddings. Personal "do it yourself" centerpieces, organic food dinners and candles galore... what is not to love? Once I started planning I even liked making a budget, finding vendors and trying to work in ways we can make our day feel like us without blowing the bank. (hello... I would like to buy a house at some point in my life...)
I decided last night that I really dislike the Industry that weddings have become. It's now the norm to spend 30,000 $'s or more on a one day affair. It's tacky to have cash bars, Friday night affairs or not give your guests a favor. You need to have $15 a slice cakes, letter pressed invitations and whole weekend affairs consisting of brunches, luncheons, golf outings, a spa day... etc. You throw the word wedding in and prices increase 25%... really?
When did it go from celebrating the beginning of two peoples lives together to this huge extraveagant blowout?
And you know what the worst part is? It's really easy to get caught up in it all. When you start reading and hearing "most important day in your life" it's really hard not to think about all the things you suddenly need to make this ONE day perfect.
Well guess what- I'm going against the grain. I hope my wedding is Not the most important day of my life. I want it to be one of the most important dayS of my life. When I sit back and get out of the wedding world and take a look at the kind of day I want it to be... it's not about the centerpieces or linens that I really think about... it's making a life long commitment with the support and love of all my friends and family. Oh, that and dancing... lots and lots of dancing. :)
While I may be struggling right now to enjoy this planning process... I can't wait for it to actually arrive. Any suggestions on how you kept your sanity while planning your wedding???